You don’t want him joking that your butt looks fat in your jeans. One thing that comes with adding more years to your life is baggage.Everyone has it, but some people have more than others. If she is an on-going part of his life, you need to be on friendly terms with her.Don’t assume that older men are different than younger men when comes to using women as sex objects.
Just because he’s older doesn’t mean he has settled down. Think of how you would feel if the shoe were on the other foot.
Know what you are getting yourself into before you get in too deep. Not only will she be less likely to make your lives less of a living hell, but she’s the best resource for learning who this man is. Plus, if he was ever abusive or unkind to her, you need to know.
Of course some women are bitter and may not be the best judge of your new man’s character.
He can use this knowledge to be a better man for you and he can use it for his own selfish reasons. When your bullshit-ometer goes off, listen to it and call him on it.
Some men like to date younger women because they can be easier to manipulate, but most men will respect a woman who is confident enough to stand up for herself and not put up with his BS.