I romanticized a story about an adult man kidnapping, molesting, and raping an adolescent girl.
None of that stuff happened to me, but I still wince when I remember how I idealized the thought of someone being single-mindedly obsessed with me the way the novel’s narrator is with Lolita.
I made my own decisions when I was 15, and I enjoyed the majority of the time I spent dating that 28-year-old as well as the older dudes who came after him.
(Also, did you know that that song was written for Aaliyah by R.
It doesn’t mean you have “daddy issues” or whatever; that phrase doesn’t actually mean anything, because it can be applied (or, preferably, not) to every person on the planet.
Being attracted to someone older just means you are a human person who sometimes thinks other human people are sexy!
That idea also applies to the years between you and an older paramour.
Time behaves more peculiarly when you’re younger because everything changes so quickly, so the distance between 16 and 21 is way bigger than the one between 23 and 28.